This guideline is framed on a relationship of three years or soe, and after living together, but it can ble applied as necessary to other situations.
Remember: When you break up, is as if someone, actually the person closest to you, has died. You no longer and will no longer know them like you once did. You will feel like you will never go on, especially if you had a spiritual connection with this person.
It will hurt. If you've never had anyone close to you die, this is what it feels like. What follows is grief.
Tha night it happens you will feel an unbelieavable shot of pain, and you may feel nauseous. You may feel like you're dying. The best thing to do is to find a close/best friend immediately. If your best friend is your girlfriend (or boy) - you may feel the need to be with them because you feel they are the only one who understands. If the breakup is mutual, this is okay. But you need to around people that comfort you. It is not uncommon to seek help from the person who caused you pain. But they cannot be the one to get you through this.
There are many ways to let go. If you have a hard time letting go, make steps and stick to them.
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Coping strategies:
* Be around people any time you can - it will be easier to eat, speak, and be okay again.
* Go out. Even if it's a coffee shop for four hours. Go out, out, out.
* When you feel the anticipation of the future, and say "What will I do without him?", stop thinking about it. Look to the now. You aren't in any danger. You may be in pain, but that is part of growing. This is what will make you strong. Accept the pain. Embrace yourself even in the darkness and find your peace.
Remember - you CAN do this. You've been through pain before, and you are NOT alone.
Remember - you CAN do this. You've been through pain before, and you are NOT alone.
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